When I was younger, I never had clear goals and I couldn’t visualize my future. I was never looking for the path that was right for me and I just kept on walking the easiest and safest path, without steep climbs and sudden descents. I never asked myself which is the path I want to walk and where I would like to arrive. Because I was not focused where the path is taking me, I arrived to a place where I didn’t feel at home.
I was always thinking a lot, but rarely about the important things. I was not in control of my mind. I can remember very well that I had a lack of imagination while growing up. When I wanted to see myself in the future, I couldn’t see anything. When I was in the elementary school, I wasn’t able to see myself in high school, when I was in high school, I couldn’t imagine myself in college and when I was in college, I wasn’t able to visualize myself having a job and going to work. Sometimes I got scared that I don’t have a future and that it will all be over soon.
Just recently I have realized why I couldn’t see my future when I was younger. The answers were right in front of me all the time, but I never noticed that. I realized that in order to see our future, we have to know who we are in this moment. What are our passions, what gets us out of bed in the morning and to what we would like to devote most of our energy and time. When I finally had the answers to all those questions, my future became crystal clear.
This summer my girlfriend’s nephew, who is fifteen years old, stayed with us for one week. In a way, I can see myself in him when I was his age. I see a boy with a lot of unexpressed energy and talent. I see a boy that has all the opportunities in this world and the only thing that will stand in his way of achieving great things, is going to be him alone. I’m not saying that he has to achieve great things today, but it is very important that he knows today, where he would like to be in five years’ time.
Come to think about it, my interests haven’t changed much since I was fifteen. The same things are attracting my attention as they were back then. This means that I had all the information I needed, to see where I would like to be today. Unfortunately, I was not aware of how important this information was.
I’m trying to encourage my girlfriend’s nephew to think about who he is. I encourage him to explore his feelings and expand his imagination. When he will get to know himself, there will be nothing standing in his way to success. All his energy and talent will rise to the surface. He will no longer try to be better than others, but try to be better than himself. He will start to walk his own path, that nobody has walked before. His path is going to be unpredictable and hard, but it is going to lead him to eternal happiness.
Everything he has to do is to think about his wishes and goals for at least 10 minutes a day. He has to be aware of his feelings and follow their lead. With their help he will get to know his passions and his purpose. The image of his future will become very clear and nothing will distract his focus.
If we are not able to see our goal, we can never achieve it.